Contact


Contacting me as blog owner and author can be done by one of two methods…

1.  Via Email.

The email address is as follows:

voicesofglass@gmail.com

All emails are appreciated and will be answered as soon as possible.  But I would ask that persons contacting me be over 18 years of age or have their parents permission to do so.

2. Via Commenting

Please simply click on the ‘Leave A Comment’ link on this page or if visible use the ‘Leave A Reply’ section below  and then fill in the subsequent details.

NB:  Should you wish for your comment NOT to be published please make that very clear at the end of your comment.

Many thanks and Kind Regards

Kevin

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6 thoughts on “Contact”

  1. Hi kevin!

    Do you have suicidal thoughts? What do you do then? I end up searching about it on net and have thus garnered a lot of info on it. Frankly though I donot think i will be doing it any soon. However I do wish that it happens on its own you know. Like magic! Peacefully. It may not be a solution. But thats the way i want to solve it. Other ways are too tough or demanding and I can’t even think of it.
    However, the longer i seem to be putting this thing off, the more i am hurting myself in other ways like isolation, neglecting studies/career etc. These things are hurting even more. Slowly eating into me.
    The reason iam asking you is obviously that i donot have anyone else to ask. Or anyone else whom i can say with a straight face that I am thinking of suicide. I just cannot imagine the scenario. Too hilarious. Why the fuck would anyone care? Maybe they might. But why burden them ?
    Maybe i am simply using this as an excuse to run away from my present pressing problems. Thus making my life even more difficult. Crapshoot!
    There was a time i used to think i would kill myself at 50. Then it became 40 and then now i am thinking something like 25. I still have 4 years to prepone it. The point being whether I would do it. It’s worth a wager though. :). Did you know that gun shot to heart is a faster and neater way to die than a gunshot to the head.
    You know the best thing about internet? This mask. I could never say all this stuff to anyone face to face. But here i can just punch in anything i want to . Kind of makes it feel unreal though.
    I intended it to be a concise post, but i have run too long. I am sorry for that. Also for bothering you.(Don’t tell me it did not. :P)
    Regards and keep smiling.
    P.S: one of my best friends in school was kevin. I kind of miss him nowadays. Not in touch with him or anyone else.
    Bye!

    • Hi Pratique,

      Yes unfortunately I do have suicidal thoughts. What I do about them really depends on how bad they are and when they come.

      It is never very easy to deal with these things I find but there are some things that I can do to counter them.

      The first thing for me at least is to recognize them the minute they start to come and to deal with them there and then rather than to ignore them and just hope that they will go away.

      This can be hard but it realy is worth trying to learn to do this and to discipline yourself to react to them as soon as you can. Ignoring them just gives them time to build up strength I find.

      Can I ask, are they linked to anything or any things specific do you know? Often there are triggers in these things and iuf you can identify them then that is often half the battle won. Keeping a diary or journal or just jotting down what you were doing, thinking feeling immediately prior to thes thoughts can really help in the long run sometimes as it can provide you with an early warning system as to a thought pattern that you are possibly going to end up going down. I hope that makes sense.

      Other things that I find helpful is to try to distract the mind away from these thoughts. Personally I don’t try to combat them once they have started as I find that just feeds into them and as a result will bring me to a point where I am entering into a battle I am probably not going to win. So I have specific things which I really enjoy and which I find focuses my mind just enough to allow me to distract my thoughts away from thse harmful suicidal thoughts. These things for me are listening to certain upbeat and positive music, watching favourite films, doing crosswords, and chatting with people whom I know and trust and who will at least get my mind off of things long enough.

      Of course you will need to find the things that work for you and that you enjoy doing and find absorbing enough to distract your mind. Perhaps you have some ideas as to what they could be?

      I think I understand what you mean about your “not thinking you will be doing it any time soon.” and your wishing “that it happens on its own you know. Like magic! Peacefully. It may not be a solution. But thats the way i want to solve it.” And I am encouraged that you say “Other ways are too tough or demanding and I can’t even think of it.”

      There is a big difference between wanting to end or take your own life and simply not wanting to live anymore. I am glad that you seem to recognize that.

      But yes it does concern me that you say “However, the longer i seem to be putting this thing off, the more i am hurting myself in other ways like isolation, neglecting studies/career etc. These things are hurting even more. Slowly eating into me.” And certainly this is something that I would recommend your dealing with sooner rather than later.

      A vicious cycle can happen here where you put of dealing with and getting help with this problem directly and it creates other problems. This then inturns decreases th quality of life that we have and that in turn feeds into the desire not to live. So I really do encourage you to get help with this as soon as you can and I am so very pleased you contacted me. And yes I truly mean that. I am pleased as at least I can hopefully offer some hope and at least someone else is aware of your struggles even if it is behind the anonymity of the internet.

      For what it is worth I have had my mental health issues including suicidal thoughts for as far back into my childhood as I can remember and tried to commit suicide long before I was even a teenager and I am now 50 years old and still here. So it is possible to fight those thoughts and to win through. In fact you mention that you had thought about doing it when you were 50, then 40 and now 25 which you say is four years away. The truth is that despite my having had suicidal thoughts most of my life I now have children older than you so there is hope. But of course that does not mean w can simply ignore them and hope they will go away.

      You mentioned that, “The reason iam asking you is obviously that i donot have anyone else to ask. Or anyone else whom i can say with a straight face that I am thinking of suicide. I just cannot imagine the scenario. Too hilarious.”

      Can I ask you, why is it such a hilarious scenario? You ask, “Why the f would anyone care?” Maybe they might. But why burden them?” I can only respond to this by asking just how much of a burden it would be if you never talked to them about this and then one day responded to you thoughts and took your own life? How burdened do you think they would be then? What sort of guilt or questions or self-blame do you think they would go through in that scenario?

      Please understand that I am by no means trying to put you on a guilt trip here. I know only too well the thought processes you have shared about why should other people care? Why should they be burdened? But I can only respond to you the same way I respond to any of my kids and yes one or two of my adopted kjids also have suicidal thoughts and indeed self-harm and yes I always encourage them talk. In fact I never criticiz or discipline them for self-harming or for having such suiucidal thoughts but trust me I would be the first to discipline them if they could have talked to someone – another parent, a sibling or myself, about it and didn’t.

      Which of course brings us to your point about your maybe using it as an excuse to run away from your present pressing problems. I would have to say you are probably right in that and thus making your life even harder and would have to ask who you are talking to about those problems? Is there anyone you can talk to about them? Do you haqve family, close friends etc? You mentioned that you are neglecting studies and career? Are you at college or university or something? Or even High school? I ask only in as much as I wonder if they have a guidance counselor there or some sort of student counselor you can talk to?

      O am very mindfult hat this is already a much longr response to your comment than your actual comment was and I apologize for that but the fact of the matter is I really do care and really would like to help however I am able to.

      I understand what you say about the best thing about the internet being the mask and I think that is a really good thing if it helps you talk freely and affods you safety. There are a lot of strange people out there and some are defintitely not safe. I also understad your feeling that you could never say all this stuff to anyone face to face. But I do wonder if that is the case or you have just convinced yourself that this is the case?

      And yes it does worry me a little that it makes it feel unreal. It really is real and is something that I would strongly urge you to get hekp with on a one to one basis or at least in a little more depth if you can. If you don’t have anyone you can talk to and I can helpo in any way you are of course more than welcome to contact me here or via my email address which is on this contacts page.

      Ok I am going to close this response here but I did also want to say please never worry about your comments or correspondence to me being too long and please don’t apologize about bothering me. Your comments only bothered me to the extent that I really do care about people and really do want to encourage you to find the help you need and I welcome all comments 🙂

      I hope what I said has helped a little and as I said please feel free to comment or email me any time.
      Kind Rgards and God bless you.
      Kevin.

      Ps. Sorry you aren’t in contact with your old school friend Kevin or anyone else now. That isolation worries me a little 🙂

  2. Hi Kevin,
    I love your blog. I’m in the process of putting together Christian testimonies on my blog. If you have yours written down, would you mind if I “borrowed” it? I would need to copy and paste it directly to my blog for a full effect. It would be part of a group that would be listed under a “Testimonies” Page at the top of my blog.
    God Bless,
    robin claire

    • Hi Robin Claire,

      I am not sure I have my testimony written out in a short piece but I will take a look for you.

      My testimony does feature as part of one of my books and so I know it is written out somewhere but I think that stretches over a couple of chapters and is too long for your purposes.

      If I can’t find anything suitable I will try and edit it down for you.

      Many thanks for your kind words and the invitation
      Kind Regards and God bless you
      Kevin

  3. Dear Kevin, please I sent you an email, actually one I had sent to the MH Guild over a week ago but never got a response. Hope I do this time, glad you are going to be writing again.

    • Hi Marie,

      I have already written to you by email but I did want to acknowledge your comment on here and to apologize again for letting this slip. I have today posted your guest post on the MHWG blog and your can find that here

      Again many apologies.

      Kind regards and God bless you.
      Kevin

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